In life, people fall in love at many stages. It is very possible for every person no matter their age to feel or fall in love. However, there is a certain stage in life where we reach and everyone seems to want love, teenage years and love. When a teenager falls in love, it is referred to as teenage love. Teens are very volatile people and this is pretty understandable. It is the first time in life to feel the urge to love the opposite sex. This is on the onset of their physical growth. Their hormones are usually referred to as running wild and this is very much the case. Teenage is a confusing place to be because you are not old enough to be called mature and you are not too young to be called a child. This is the time where most youth act out and when it comes to the matters of the heart, a lot of them fall in love. Teenage love has sometimes been referred to as not being real love. Instead, experts say that a lot of feelings that teens have for the opposite sex is mainly infatuation. This is a form of lust that passes with time.
However, love being hard to define, it is vital that all cases be looked at differently. It is during this stage that many teens make the worse mistakes of their lives but, this is usually not the case in other situations. Sexually, teens what to experience and explore first hand, the kind of emotions that are associated with love. It is therefore paramount to understand exactly what they are going through before you are quick to give them advice. The biggest issue that is always a source of debate is sex during teenage. Many want to know what it is all about. Others believe that for love to be real there must be sexual intercourse. With the modern world, more and more teens are having choices when it comes to sex. Many have not come up openly to condemn teenage sex. In the past, when young people reached teenage, this was a time for them to be married off. For this reason, teens cannot be totally condemned for wanting to exercise that which has been there since time began. However, with civilization, more and more parents have come out strongly to condemn any love consummation for their teens.
When teens experience these strange, strong feelings stirring up inside them that they have never felt before, they adamantly believe it to be love. They believe in it so strongly that nearly all of them have a fantasy backup plan prepared in case things go against their love story like running away from home or committing suicide.
As we are progressing into a newer era of technology, the link of children with their parents and siblings is becoming weaker. Teens just hang out with their friends, visit places and parties that their parents know nothing about, get loads of pocket money to spend, and cars to drive, while doing so, they forget their real family: parents and siblings, and since everybody in the house is caught up in his/her own problems, it happens that whenever teens face problems, they aren’t friendly enough with their parents, so eventually they turn to their friends, who, due to belonging to the same age group , can only give immature advices such as running away and committing suicide to the love struck Romeos and Juliets.WHAT TO DO
• Your life is not an Indian movie. Stop trying to make it look like one.
• What you feel is not love: it is infatuation.
• Infatuation might feel like love, since it’s a strong feeling in our developing adolescent minds. But, it isn’t. it’s a simple crush. We understand the difference between the two feelings as we grow older.
• Crushes often last long, from months to years. It depends how often you see or meet the person. Sometimes, hanging out with the person increases the duration of the crush. In other cases it makes you realize that there is nothing really that amazing about the person, and your crush just disappears.
• Stop creating fictional, fantasy based ideas in your head like getting married in teenage on your own or running away from home.
• Talk to at least one person in your family about it, talking about it to a mature person makes you feel better, and gives you a direction.
• Chill out, enjoy life, study, and make a career!
So, for those of you who “can’t sleep or eat” because you have a crush on someone, let me tell you again that having crushes is normal, but taking them so hard on yourself that they start to disturb you is abnormal. Don’t let it happen to you. And “BE REALISTIC”. You are not going to kill yourself, neither will you run away. That’s all talk, think about it with a cool head!
The most important part of the whole matter is the one we often tend to miss: Islam’s point of view. Our religion does not encourage such dramatically emotional relations arising between males and females AT ALL.
Parents, and siblings, please be understanding and friendly with your children so that they come to you to get their problems solved. Please be more concerned and connected to their lives, and the friends. We don’t really know what they are doing, we just know who their friends and known them as his friend but we didn’t know what they’re really up to. Check them from time to time, esspecially when your children is a girl because sometimes they can do something that unexpected. So, take care of your children, control them but still be friendly.. Insyallah
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